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Insight into the Reality of Single Motherhood in Copán

A blog post by Daysi Ramirez, Executive Director

Imagine having: 1.) a demanding, 8-hour job that sometimes spills over into your personal time due to the level of responsibility, 2.) an elderly grandmother who needs regular assistance, 3.) a daily list of household chores, 4.) a relationship, 5.) weekend classes, 6.) family members who instead of offering support, criticize you because you became a teenage mother, 7.) and a 3-year-old child who constantly demands your attention.

This is the reality of one of the youngest single mothers we support, whom the program coordinator and I recently spent almost an hour speaking with. She reached out to us because her son has been displaying behavioral issues, and a family member suggested she seek psychological help, suggesting she was not a good mom. Feeling overwhelmed, she questioned if she was the problem and what she was doing wrong. She couldn’t see the effort she was putting in or the love she demonstrated for her son every day.

Sindy and I listened to her, highlighting her strengths as a mother and the positive things she was doing. Together, we devised practical steps to improve her relationship with her son and promised to be there for her whenever she needed it. We emphasized that she was not the problem but part of the solution. I have seen situations like this so many times with so many women around me. And I realize two things: one, how incredible, resilient, and brave women are, and two, how much of a difference a support system can make in a woman’s life, especially a mother, and even more for a single mother.

Financial hardships and psychological stressors faced by the mothers we serve.

It’s clear to us at Casita that many of the women we serve lack this crucial support due to the broken state of our country’s systems. To support others, we must first feel supported, a reality often absent in Honduras, where essential service systems, particularly those provided by the government, have collapsed.

While I understand why this woman’s family may struggle to support her adequately, it feels unfair that she should face judgment and be made to feel like a bad mother. I’m grateful that she has found a support network at Casita for herself and her son. I know we can’t solve all her problems, but she knows she has a place to turn not just to talk, but to find real, practical solutions—a safe place where her son is cared for while she tirelessly works and studies for a better future.

As I write this in the comfort of my home, I can’t help but imagine the evenings of the mothers we serve—cooking, cleaning, bathing their children, all while exhausted and perhaps yearning for someone to care for them in the same way.

These tireless women are the heart of Casita, those who strive daily despite so much adversity, who have the courage and humility to ask for help because they are so interested in the well-being of their children, who fight against gender stereotypes while they bravely navigate single parenthood.

Every chance we get, we tell them what incredibly good mothers they are. They may not be perfect, but we can tell that with love and patience, they are receptive to our advice and motivated to improve by their love for their children.

Join us in supporting these remarkable women, whom we honor in this campaign. Your contribution can provide the support these remarkable women rely on, assistance they can’t find elsewhere.